Magnetic Fire

Words That Create a World for Mature Gay Men and Those Who Love Them

Loren Olson

For some men, the sexual attraction to another man is unexpected, unwanted and yet unavoidable. Like a moth to a flame, some men are magnetically drawn to other men, often after having made considerable efforts made to resist it. It is like a magnetic fire.

These are the opening words from my book, Finally Out: Unlocking the Closet in Mid-Life and Beyond, that is due to be out later this year:

Chapter 1: I Am Not Gay (But I Might be a Little Bit Queer)

That fear had been inside him for many years, if it lived with him,
it had been another shadow cast over his own shadow
ever since the night he awoke, shaken by a bad dream,
and realized that that was not only a permanent probability,
as he had always believed, but an immediate reality.

Love in the Time of Cholera
Gabriel Garcia Marquez

“I know precisely the moment I became gay. As Cary Grant said as Dr. David Huxley in the 1938 movie Bringing Up Baby, “I just went gay all of a sudden!”

“Of course, it was not as sudden as it seemed. Nothing much about my life had changed, at least not yet. But there was a very precise moment when I was forty years old when things shifted inside my head, and I went from thinking of myself as straight to knowing that I was gay. Only then did I begin to realize how my gay-ness had cast a shadow over me my entire life.”

Loren Olson

For some men, the sexual attraction to another man is unexpected, unwanted and yet unavoidable. Like a moth to a flame, some men are magnetically drawn to other men, often after having made considerable efforts made to resist it. It is like a magnetic fire.

Mature gay men are a diverse group and include all ethnicities, religions, and socio-economic and political groups. For mature gay men who have delayed coming out until mid-life, coming out is much different than it is for younger men.

It is my goal to help others remove some of the psychological barriers so they may reach harmony and peace within and in relationship to others. Since your experiences are important and a largely neglected part of social research, I look forward to hearing from  you.

Come, join with me in the search for understanding, acceptance and reconciliation.