Magnetic Fire is a community for mature gay men



“A wise, cordial, trustworthy 68-year-old gay shrink.”

– Father Tony Adams, The Bilerico Project & South Florida Gay Times

“We have waited a long time for a voice. You have delivered. Congratulations.”

– Philip

“[Finally Out] is valuable for any person who finds homosexual acts to be sinful.”

– Married, heterosexual, Evangelical Christian minister

To order Finally Out, click here.

“MagneticFire” uses words to explore the world of mature gay men and those who love them.

For some men, the sexual attraction to another man is unexpected, unwanted and yet unavoidable. Like a moth to a flame, they are magnetically drawn to other men, often after having made considerable efforts to resist it. It is like a magnetic fire.

About this blog: Mature gay men are a diverse group and include all ethnicities, religions, and socio-economic and political groups. Many of them live hidden lives, with no one with whom they can talk with about their attractions. They feel isolated and alone.

For mature gay men who have delayed coming out until mid-life, coming out is much different than it is for younger men. It is my goal to help others remove some of the psychological barriers so they may reach harmony and peace within and in relationship to others. Since your experiences are important and a largely neglected part of social research, I look forward to hearing from you.

Come, join me, as we search for understanding, acceptance and reconciliation.

Below are the opening words from my book, Finally Out: Letting Go of Living Straight, a Psychiatrist’s Own Story. It is due out in March 2011:

Chapter 1: I Am Not Gay (But I Might be a Little Bit Queer)

I know precisely the moment I became gay. As Cary Grant said as Dr. David Huxley in the 1938 movie Bringing Up Baby, “I just went gay all of a sudden!”

Of course, it was not as sudden as it seemed. Nothing much about my life had changed, at least not yet. But there was a very precise moment when I was forty years old when things shifted inside my head, and I went from thinking of myself as straight to knowing that I was gay. Only then did I begin to realize how my gay-ness had cast a shadow over my my entire life.


Loren A. Olson MD is a Board Certified Psychiatrist, licensed in the State of Iowa. He is not liable to you or anyone else for any loss or damage sustained in connection with the use of this web site or a linked web site. While Dr. Olson uses reasonable efforts to include accurate and up to date information on this web site, he makes no warranties or representations with respect to the content of the web site, and he will not be liable for the accuracy, completeness, adequacy, timeliness, or comprehensiveness of the information contained on this web site.

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