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I am not angry toward Christians. I am a Christian. However, God’s rules are interpreted by some Christian churches differently. My church says that we are commanded to love God and love one another. I do not believe, as you seem to, that there are absolute truths. The Christian church’s rules have not remained constant over time, and are not consistent from one church to another.

I grew up without a father — you’ll have to read my book to learn more about that — and it is simply not true that being raised by one parent profoundly effects our abilities to form relationships. My ability to establish and maintain loving relationships has in no way been impaired because of that.

When the Iowa Supreme Court in their unanimous decision said there is no legal basis to discriminate against same sex marriage, the court could find NO evidence presented that children raised by gay and lesbian parents would be negatively impacted by it. Since I was married to a woman and have children of my own, I can tell you that they were much more effected by my divorce than by my being gay. No one these days seems to be attempting to get rid of divorce.

Although there is no proof (yet) that homosexuality is genetic, there is plenty of evidence that is supportive of that idea, and not much good evidence against it. Some Christians do not like the idea that it might be innate because then it can’t be changed. There is plenty of evidence that suggests that attempts to change sexual orientation is damaging if not dangerous. You mentioned that it is much harder and challenging to be gay. If that is true, and I believe it is, why would any of us have chosen to follow a much more difficult path? We followed it because we knew we could NOT change it. I struggled not to accept it for forty years.

I regret you mother has not found peace. However, I do not believe that she will find more peace by committing herself to a religious belief that will increase her sense of dissonance, guilt and shame.

I am gay and I can assure you that I have all the right male body parts. I am a man in every way, just as your mother is still a woman in every way. Neither she nor I are less of a man or woman because we are gay. Accept us as we are.

Loren Olson

Incidentally, the UK Courts have ruled that Christian beliefs on sexual ethics may be ‘inimical’ to children, and they implicitly upheld an Equalities and Human Rights Commission (EHRC) submission that children risk being ‘infected’ by Christian moral beliefs.

Please consider the children who are being adopted here. All of these little children will grow up to be adults one day. Consider the psychological effects on these adolescent girls growing up with out fathers, and boys with out mothers.

The studies show that the absence of the opposite sex parent has profound effects on their ability to have healthy relationships. Additionally, these children will experience hardship and extra challenge…because we all know it is a much harder and challenged lifestyle to be “gay”. Yes, the children will suffer, it will be harder for them than children from heterosexual parents (not to mention the fact that adopted children will also be dealing with the effects from being adopted).

I was raised by a gay mother and her partner of 16 years, until they split up. She dated some after the break up, and eventually found another long term partner for 10 years. She has since split up again. My mother is 59 and still gay. I love her very much. My mother has suffered and struggled her whole life. She never had this great peace that comes from the real relationship with God that can only come from loving him so much and following all of his rules.

He made the rules because we are all his children and he wants to protect us from struggling, pain and hardship. I will summarize that my life growing up with gay parents and before salvation was dark and more difficult than I could write about here. After forming my relationship with God through Jesus Christ, it is full of joy , light and peace…SO much better after figuring out the TRUTH.

Also, homosexuality is not genetic. There has been no scientific proof of that statement. God made my gay mother with female hormones, breasts and child bearing organs. She is a woman, even though she presents as very masculine. God gave people free will to make their own choices. Just like an alcoholic has the free will to drink or be sober. The choices we make determine the quality of our lives.

God gives us rules. It is up to us to make the choices.