Comments on: The Validity of “Sexual Addiction” http://www.magneticfire.com/2010/03/10/the-validity-of-sexual-addiction/ Commentary on Being Gay in Mid-Life and Beyond Wed, 18 Jan 2012 15:50:40 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.4 By: sam http://www.magneticfire.com/2010/03/10/the-validity-of-sexual-addiction/comment-page-1/#comment-100764 sam Mon, 07 Nov 2011 22:51:08 +0000 http://www.magneticfire.com/?p=1416#comment-100764 <strong>sam...</strong> [...]The Validity of “Sexual Addiction” | Magnetic Fire[...]... sam…

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]]> By: Aletha Ercanbrack http://www.magneticfire.com/2010/03/10/the-validity-of-sexual-addiction/comment-page-1/#comment-2345 Aletha Ercanbrack Mon, 10 May 2010 09:44:01 +0000 http://www.magneticfire.com/?p=1416#comment-2345 I've always told people it had to be true. Thanks for shedding light on this. I’ve always told people it had to be true. Thanks for shedding light on this.

]]> By: Loren A. Olson M.D. http://www.magneticfire.com/2010/03/10/the-validity-of-sexual-addiction/comment-page-1/#comment-1056 Loren A. Olson M.D. Fri, 12 Mar 2010 16:33:24 +0000 http://www.magneticfire.com/?p=1416#comment-1056 You have offered some interesting comments. Here is a link to another article which speaks to your point, <a href="http://www.alternet.org:80/story/145922/too_much_sex_no_such_thing_--_why_sex_a" rel="nofollow">Too Much Sex? No Such Thing -- Why Sex Addiction Is Total B.S.</a> The reason I have chosen to publish what someone else has written rather than to write my own essay is that I am still on the fence about this issue. On the one hand, I do believe that some are so obsessed with sex, that they put the rest of their life on hold to pursue, mostly meaningless, sexual encounters. From a psychological perspective, there seems to be something wrong with that. I have a hard time labeling it an addiction, but would look more to issues of emptiness, loneliness, difficulty in connecting with people. Seeking pleasure through sex, creates a <a href="http://www.magneticfire.com/2010/02/03/the-pleasure-molecule/" rel="nofollow">dopamine surge</a>, which some people seem almost addicted to, whether it's extreme sports, gambling, sex or almost anything people seem compelled to to do. So many things in our society become commercialized, including things like <a href="http://www.magneticfire.com/?s=reparative+therapy&x=17&y=5" rel="nofollow">reparative therapies for homosexuality</a>, and I certainly think that is true with sexual addiction. Someone high profile gets into trouble, and off they go to (very expensive) rehab. Shame and guilt are removed in the process, at least publicly. I also must add that I have had almost no involvement with these treatment centers, so I cannot offer an objective opinion about it. I think that anyone who is in a possition of power and affluence has people who are attracted to them. There seems to be a kind of mutual exploitation of each other. The relationship can be over-romantacized and unrealistic, and when it falls apart, vengance comes to the fore. I will be writing more about this in my book. I'm interested in hearing a lot more from everyone about this controverial subject. Loren Olson You have offered some interesting comments. Here is a link to another article which speaks to your point, Too Much Sex? No Such Thing — Why Sex Addiction Is Total B.S.
The reason I have chosen to publish what someone else has written rather than to write my own essay is that I am still on the fence about this issue.

On the one hand, I do believe that some are so obsessed with sex, that they put the rest of their life on hold to pursue, mostly meaningless, sexual encounters. From a psychological perspective, there seems to be something wrong with that. I have a hard time labeling it an addiction, but would look more to issues of emptiness, loneliness, difficulty in connecting with people.

Seeking pleasure through sex, creates a dopamine surge, which some people seem almost addicted to, whether it’s extreme sports, gambling, sex or almost anything people seem compelled to to do.

So many things in our society become commercialized, including things like reparative therapies for homosexuality, and I certainly think that is true with sexual addiction. Someone high profile gets into trouble, and off they go to (very expensive) rehab. Shame and guilt are removed in the process, at least publicly. I also must add that I have had almost no involvement with these treatment centers, so I cannot offer an objective opinion about it.

I think that anyone who is in a possition of power and affluence has people who are attracted to them. There seems to be a kind of mutual exploitation of each other. The relationship can be over-romantacized and unrealistic, and when it falls apart, vengance comes to the fore.

I will be writing more about this in my book. I’m interested in hearing a lot more from everyone about this controverial subject.

Loren Olson

]]> By: DyNama http://www.magneticfire.com/2010/03/10/the-validity-of-sexual-addiction/comment-page-1/#comment-1046 DyNama Fri, 12 Mar 2010 04:30:16 +0000 http://www.magneticfire.com/?p=1416#comment-1046 I'm just an amateur but I'm wondering why this is even considered a disease. Is it only because society as a whole condemns the behavior, even though a significant number of men secretly applaud and are jealous of it, and others brag about doing it? I think several athletes and rockers have boasted about the number of women they've slept with, numbering in the tens of thousands. Do they have a disorder that needs treatment? Is the ultimate goal of treatment a committed relationship, or monogamy? I’m just an amateur but I’m wondering why this is even considered a disease. Is it only because society as a whole condemns the behavior, even though a significant number of men secretly applaud and are jealous of it, and others brag about doing it?

I think several athletes and rockers have boasted about the number of women they’ve slept with, numbering in the tens of thousands. Do they have a disorder that needs treatment?

Is the ultimate goal of treatment a committed relationship, or monogamy?

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